I had been trying to
avoid taking this channel for a very long time now to throw away
my negative thoughts but now after exhausting all my options i
am ready to blurt
out certain things here.
So, some of my most
logical friends believe that "expectations are the cause
of all sufferings
."
therefore we must stop expecting anything from anyone. While you are
going through
a deep emotionalcrises in your life ,you would immediately agree
to this because this
is the shortest route out there to save yourself from most
hurtful ,heartless sentiment
thrown at you by your loved ones. But now let me
have a closer look and a broader
picture at this idea.
whom do we expect basically from?
family,friends,
colleagues, peers etc
Our expectations, hopes hurt us if not
displayed by the person in the manner we
are expecting.
What sort of society
are we attempting to create through this thought?
A society where a
pregnant woman should not expect a seat from a man , an old
man with clutches
in hand should not expect a youth passing by to help him
cross the street , a
young girl being molested by a group of goons should not
expect any help from the crowd.
For those who would
argue now that all of these scenarios occur in public life
and the idea
revolved around
our personal life. So , I should not compare the two...
To expect small
acts, gestures of kindness and compassion is not a sin.
It is one of the basic
elements of human nature to strengthen solidarity
in society. On what basis these expectations were made in
the above cases is
with the assumption that your family cannot be present with
you all the time.
Therefore, the world should be a family. Further, if you
believe that your
expectations should not cross the frontiers of your family
then you are narrow
minded and selfish . I feel pity at you because you have
been trying to avoid the
distortions in your simple ,busy life from a giving
end but you don’t realise
that someday you too will be at the receiving end as
well.
So, you are going to
fall in either of the above categories ( pregnant woman ,
an old man and a
young woman ) someday . But you should not expect anything
from anyone because
this is what you have taught yourself all your life.
Now coming onto the
personal side of this very idea. your friendships ,
relationships at your
workplace are all superficial because today at this age of 24
you are having an
amazing time with good health and wealth . So, you remember
your loved ones at the
time of party, auspicious occasions etc but wait you should
not expecteven a
single word of kindness or encouragement in case you are
having an emotional,
financial or health crises and vice versa.
I should not expect
my closest friend to ask me how am I after failing in an exam
even after
working hard, I should not expect any encouraging words to start all over
again
and vice versa .
Then , why there is
any relationship existing at all.
Someone please explain!!
Can this sort of
society work? Yes , it can but with the assumption that our
government
institutions are strong enough to replace social institutions . We already
are having the constitutional
ideas that originate from the concept of
individualism
like equality, liberty etc .
And social institutions are functional too. Problem is the
clash of the
traditional culture promoting collectivism with the western and
constitutional
ideas fostering individualism. So till the time our democracy does not
become
strong enough to take care of an individual
right from his birth till death .
We must keep our expectations high because that
will ensure the existence of a
loving, caring society.
In this light, 2015
was a game changer year for me. i learnt some of my best lessons
in that year
on the personal front. it even showcased to me that how i had
created a good
world of my own neglecting all the basic conflicts that we all have
with our different
set of beliefs, ideas and understanding on life issues. So, here I
happily lose out two of my favorite people and I want to celebrate this today as I
am
optimistic that things would only improve from hereon. Further, I feel
extremely
TIRED of sorting out things relentlessly and failing each time.
Let's blow the
candles and move on...☺
